Aaiyyanists are free thinkers. We believe that anyone has the right to live and share their lives with another being. The Dravidian Aaiyyanists have never discriminated against anyone choosing to spend their life with anyone else. In fact, 3000 years ago transgendered Guru Teligian married her longest serving student and successor Guru Davinianal.
In the Aaiyyanist treatise: ‘The Mark’ (300BC) – it lays out the nature of marriage and how it can be a union between two individuals, or even two groups. In the historical story of the founding of the 4th Aaiyyanist Gurudom, Guru Chahnanian married ten people who were in turn married to ten others such that the collective Ashram that eventually became the City State had an extremely close collective. A collective so strong due to the fact that everyone was married or were related to one another through marriage. Of course such things maybe impossible in the modern world.
For non-Aaiyyanists, we should give a brief description of what marriage is and the philosophy behind it. In orthodox Dravidian Aaiyyanism, marriage is a sacred vow between two (or more) people to be with each other in this life and the next ten lives. (Some orthodox Hindus believe it is seven incarnations). Suffice it to say, that marriage is a Holy contract, it is a promise…. a Karmic promise that stretches beyond all physicality and time.
A marriage is between any adults is over the age of 21 in traditional Aaiyyanism, as that is when the basic/intermediate Aaiyyanist training has finished. It is also the time when young Aaiyyanists can join a School and begin to specialise in their training, and thus they are spiritually able to make the Karmic promise of marriage.
There is no concept of sexual relations in the Dravidian Aaiyyanist marriage, it is purely a spiritual affair. Thus the Aaiyyanist is free to marry (make the Karmic promise) to anyone they choose. The nature of sexual relations, Yogic sexual practise and Tantra between man, woman, transgender or other affiliations should be discussed and taught further from the Dravidian Aaiyyanist School that you belong too. You must remember though, there is no discrimination in relations between any genders – all relationships, heterosexual, homosexual, asexual etc are fully permitted in Dravidian Aaiyyanism. The Aaiyyanist is absolutely free to choose their own partner and (in some Schools of thought) they are also encouraged to choose partners outside their chosen sexual preference. Traditionally, Dravidian Aaiyyanists are beyond sex and sexuality and are one with all beings, and this is confirmed by Aaiyyanist practise and doctrine.
Sometimes when a relationship breaks down in this lifetime, people separate and divorce. There is also no real concept of divorce in Dravidian Aaiyyanism. If a relationship breaks down between two individuals or many individuals, then they are free to live apart. This is permissible in Dravidian Aaiyyanism. However, the Karmic promise cannot be broken, so in their next ten incarnations these individuals or groups are destined to meet and form relationships once more. Whether that leads to a Dravidian Aaiyyanist wedding is up to the individuals, but if they do remarry in their next life, then the Karmic bond is reset for anther ten incarnations.
One must remember the purpose of reincarnation, and that is to reset our perceptions and feelings for one another. Even if you remember your past life, you will see it as a passive observer and be able to reconnect up with people in your previous lives that you left, betrayed, hurt etc… and correct the Karmic imbalance.
So in summary, in Aaiyyanism marriage is a Karmic contract with someone or many individuals or whatever gender, and it is a promise to be with them for this life and ten others. If the relationship falls apart in this life, the contract for the ten remaining lives continues on.