I have had innumerable correspondences from many many people on what is the best path to take as an Aaiyyanist. I would say though, that this sort of thinking is misguided. In Aaiyyanism one is allowed (or even obliged) to study and research as many aspects of Brahman as is possible in this lifetime. In other words, to understand (even slightly) the vast diversity of Brahman’s path and knowledge one must study, experience and ultimately live a full and varied life.
One is allowed to work and have a family or live as a hermit for many years. Both are part of the will of Brahman. In fact I know many Aaiyyanists who live as a hermit, as a solitary monk, then form a family and have a wife/husband and children; but then later in life go back to a monastic life with a group of fellow Aaiyyanists until finally they become wondering Sannyasins. Both men and women follow this path as it is a natural path for the spiritually inclined.
I know of other Aaiyyanist men and women who build up their career, have a family and enjoy the wonders of deep community relations. Then after their responsibilities have diminished, then then become wandering teachers and healers for several years… before returning to their community and family to resume their familial duties before they pass onto the next life.
I have examples of fellow High Aaiyyanists (members of the inner chamber) who follow the pure path in terms of research and meditation, but experience the richness of Tantra in their personal life. There are practitioners of the Ayurvedic Aardra school who also practise the martial forms of SainikaH.
So, the question is: how do you live your life as an ideal Aaiyyanist? Firstly you must study, learn about Aaiyyanism, mainstream Hinduism, the many different paths of Hindu thought and philosophy. Learn about other faiths and belief systems. Dravidian Aaiyyanism is the highest form of Jnana Yoga – the path of knowledge, thus you must learn everything: philosophy, mathematics, poetry, music, dance, language. As you learn you must also allow life to guide you in your path.
Your subconscious mind knows (from its previous Karmic knowledge bank) what you need to do in this life. You will know it when you feel comfortable and relaxed in the path that you have taken, and you will intuitively know when to change that path when your subconscious mind talks to your conscious mind and shows you that you need to move onto the next path. This can be realised as simply as feeling bored or unfulfilled or unconformable – this is our subconscious mind telling us what we already know and have been programmed to do since we were born.
As all Dravidian Hindu Aaiyyanists know, that on death we (as Aaiyyanists) simply do not reincarnate directly into the next body (though most humans and other beings do). At the moment of death we have a choice. Many souls who are untrained rush quickly into the next life as they long for life so much. Other more experienced spiritual souls go to what Aaiyyanist traditionally call Micaiyyan (or heaven) where they can spend their time in bliss (for a short while or a very long time – relatively). But the true Aaiyyanists will know that in order to be closer to ‘The One’ we must pay our Karmic debt or break the Karmic cycle to truly advance our souls. For what are we here for, but to advance to the next level?
The Aaiyyanist can choose to be judged and Brahman, the Gods and the higher positive and negative entities of all Talas and Lokas discuss with you, your duties. Then you yourself will chose your next life and go back to the various material planets that exists in the Universe to repay your Karmic debt and learn the spiritual teachings of the Universe. That is why when you are reborn you are almost always meeting the same souls that you met in a previous life. This is because you have a spiritual Karmic link with others which you must address before you can truly become One again.
So, how do you lead your life? First study and experience many things, but remember the most important thing is to allow yourself to make those life decisions – as you actually know what to do, either subconsciously or consciously. Remember all experiences help us understand ‘The One’ and helps us become One by breaking the Karmic cycle.